So here is the issue:
We have a 16 year old son (an only child...wanted to have at least two but it wasn't in the cards biologically) who is a great kid, does well in school, has many friends and is very loyal to them, etc. About 8 months ago he confessed to us that he had smoked pot "a couple of times" with friends..."mom and dad, just letting you know". We sat down with him and decided to confess to him, in return, that at his age, yes, we "did it as well" but our parents were never told simply because back in the day it was much more frowned upon. In fact I didn't tell my dad until I was in my 30's, married, etc.....he had a shchits fit!!! ("You put our family in danger with your drugs!!! How could you do that in my house!!!")
Our discussion concluded with us, first of all, thanking him for being honest with us and secondly that if he did it on an occasional basis on weekends and not during school, with responsible friends, and didn't drive under the influence or be driven by someone under the influence that it would be "OK"....only MJ and nothing else!
Well, surprise, surprise...we've since discovered that he has been smoking up on , let's say, a regular basis! We confronted him and said that that was not what we had agreed upon. He apologized and promised to cut back.
We have, unfortunately, left the cat out of the bag at this point...
If it were you in this situation, would you simply ride out the storm and hope that it's simply a phase like it was back in our day or do you take more drastic measures?
I thought I'd pass it on you guys first before I discussed with friends and family here....my family is basically anti-drugs of any type so if I bring it up with them I'll get an earfull for sure!
Thanks in advance!
Alex