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Women are generally good eggs, but they will never turn down anything we offer them. If YOU make huge sacrifices out of love, it will be nobody's fault but your own, BUT - YOU will feel stressed, and may create huge resentments.
Stripping out, or selling your car is a one trick pony. It may not gain you that much, and it may degrade the value of your car. Cars may come and go, but if you keep your Porsche and you are o0n a budget, you may have to park it when other matters are more pressing than car maintenance.
It is natural to have the jitters before a wedding, and it is natural to want to give your new bride everything. Feeling poor because you can't is a common feeling, but doing foolish things is optional, and giving too much of yourself or your finances is bad for your living situation, and bad for your relationship.
The best things in life often come slowly, and develop over a period of years. It is hard to get a sense of this when you are starting out, but know this - Slow and Steady wins the race.
Be honest about your finances and abilities, and don't foster a secret sense of shame and or a poverty mentality. Kings of old did not enjoy all the luxuries that we average folks take for granted. Be here now, and enjoy the things you have and can AFFORD. Concentrate on living well within your means, and developing a prudent reserve for rainy days.
Don't make promises you can't keep, or write checks you can't cash. Poor is a state of mind. You obviously have that state of mind. Look at your screen name. Change your thinking, and look at the big picture over the long haul.
Women like confident, secure men. Get your head straight. Right now there are a bunch of monkeys running around in there. If there are any older married man that you respect, you need to hang with them. Stick with the winners, and you will be all right.
Good luck will often come to those who keep a clear head and act sensibly. Doing things that freak you out usually is an indicator that you are not listening to your gut. Do you want to look like the great provider, or do you want to have a successful life ?
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