One thing's for certain: He'll suffer professionally and she won't. If she plays this the right way she'll come out of this as some kind of victim--with a new career in the media somewhere--and Patraeus will disappear into oblivion. His cheating: Bad, bad, bad boy. Her predatory behavior: Self-empowerment/you-go-girl/it wasn't my fault/I had no choice/he was too powerful/I feared for my career/my husband was distant/we were in a dangerous country and I needed a hug.