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Originally Posted by Head416
I encourage you to proceed carefully. Five years from now you don't want to be known as the guy that didn't want his grandchild to be born. You also don't want to damage a relationship with someone who may be in your life forever, whether you like it or not.
I find it commendable that your son wants to stand up and do right by her and the baby. Even if he's a bit naive, that speaks to his character. As said before, his life has changed, no matter what happens from here on out. If you pressure them for abortion, he could carry that for the rest of his life as well. I have friends dealing with issues from that.
Above all, make sure that your relationship with your son stays intact. Of course you're mad, but that anger isn't going to help anybody.
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I agree. I know you want to make a decision now but a little time to let the situation and possible solutions sink in might help. I do agree with everybody that a paternity test should be first. Expensive but may save you a lot of heartache and more money in the long run.
I know he's a "kid" and the decision he makes is going to affect his life forever and as a parent, it is so hard to not jump in and "fix" things. But in the end, whatever he, she, you, decides, he got himself into a really "adult" situation. So, start treating him like an adult. You would be surprised when a young man or woman gets stuck in an adult situation and you treat them like an adult and expect them to act like an adult, they do. My sister got pregnant when she was in high school. She grew up fast and made a lot of mistakes. But man, did she learn and grow from them.
Just be strong and support your son. Be a role model to him of what a good father is because he just may soon be one.