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It's about boundaries; setting them and maintaining them.
You happen to have a set of skills that make it relatively easy for you to replace an engine. I have a set of skills that make it somewhat easy for me to build a house, or any subset of a house.
It's very easy to volunteer our time to our friends who don't have these skills and whom we don't want to see taken advantage of by others who make a living with the skills we take for granted. It's taken me years to realize that my weekends are precious and that my time is sometimes invaluable.
I still continue to screw this up and offer to help too often. Learning to set boundaries is a process and the boundaries are dynamic; a person I helped last weekend my not get my time next weekend. Bottom line is the older I get, the more valuable my free time becomes to me.
Jesse
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