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Originally Posted by nostatic
I don't see reference to that. Only that a majority of the troublemakers come from "disrupted" homes (3 out of the 4).
Just seems odd to call that factor out, then try to minimize it. In fact you state that they are younger and less experienced. Maybe there is some internal bias on divorce and that colors perception of the kids' behavior?
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nope, no bias. I'm from a divorced home myself.
The only one of the troublemakers who isn't is my own son. I did call it out minimally but didn't mention that the other kids are from unbroken homes.
I'm not saying that divorced parents are bad parents by any way shape or form. but the simple feeling remains - kids want their parents together and when they aren't it makes them sad. At least that is how I feel myself. I'm approaching 40 - my parents have been divorced for decades. It was HORRIBLE when they were together but to this day it still makes me sad to think about the fact that I really do wish that my parents had been able to just love each other as much as I loved them. It took me a long time to figure that feeling out and I didn't figure it out until I had my own kids. I can't imagine an 8-10 year old would really be able to understand those feelings they probably have.
I don't want to color these troublemakers as all bad either. I believe I said it in the original post. They are good kids who I really do like and enjoy having on the team but the last few practices and some moments in the games have been really challenging. Plus it is a bit of a safety issue if they aren't paying attention they could get hurt.