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Have to agree with the folks that see close platonic relationships as dangerous. One of the two is usually looking at it differently...and the other is just fooling them self.
Given that much time together (away from the significant other) can't help but end up badly. The woman starts making unfair comparisons to the significant other (since friend is almost perfect because she only sees him when he is on his best behavior... In date mode), next thing you know, her SO does nothing right and she thinks she is in love. The guy falls in "lust" almost immediately. They usually gets the signals wrong from the start and believe the woman is interested physically if she pays any extra attention to him... He usually sees sex as the endgame (men are programmed that way) where the woman typically sees a storybook romance and "happily ever after" as the outcome. Both are usually missing something in their other relationship that they subconsciously feel they can find in this one. Doing so prevents their investment in their relationship with their SO and keeps them from repairing/enhancing that relationship. That is why prostitutes and online chatrooms have always been popular. Small investment for the return. Like leasing a rarely used tool like a wood chipper or stump grinder. Of course with relationships, why buy what you can get for free? Borrow the neighbor's wood chipper.
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