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Originally Posted by Cajundaddy
Tweeze,
Yes they are asking you out on a date. If you don't want to go, don't go. If you do want to go, just put on a dress and approach it as a fun adventure for a few hours. You do like fun adventures don't you? Don't overthink it. Good things happen when you really get in the now. Dating and surfing are a lot alike really. Seek that moment when you pop-up and the board settles into the wave and all is balanced and awareness is heightened. Life is in that moment. If you bring too many expectations or look too far down the road you often miss the best waves.
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Oooooooo... Love that surfing analogy!!! I over-think everything. Even my surfing instructor said that. You are right. Sometimes I am good at enjoying the moment and others I revert to old ways. I guess I am hesitant because well, I have been scorned too many times. My divorce nearly killed me. I was a wreck. I had to be in therapy by myself for almost a year AFTER marriage therapy. And since my divorce, let's just say I let my guard down and my heart has taken a couple more beatings. I know I need the companionship of a man. It's human nature. Maybe that is why I have a lot of guy friends. It's safe. We go out, have fun and I go home. My heart is spared. I truly think my guard is up. It's like I love the feeling of catching the wave because I have done it before. But my last wipe out was so bad that it messed up my head. I am so scared of wiping out bad again, that I just go for those little waves, not even enjoying those fully because I am so freaking scared. So, I settle for boogie boarding...