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Josh, it may indeed by the sleep deprivation. I think John was trying to play devil's advocate and show what the potential perception would be when your behind is hauled into court.

Operating on your own, I think you're only courting disaster - this is setting up to be an epic case of "no good deed goes unpunished".

If you are willing to spend some of your own cash on legal fees (without any expectation of repayment), I'd consult with some estate attorneys ASAP. Otherwise, I'd be floating a letter to every firm in the phone book asking if they'd consider her case on a pro bono basis. Also call around to folks that might be able to point you in the right direction - Catholic Charities, your state bar association, charities that work with the elderly and/or indigent, etc.