We raised 3 children with the first one mostly pointing the direction he should follow because parents know best
By the second one, we started taking the back seat on direction and just supported her decisions
The third one did everything he thought was right for himself and his future
After the first one crashed and totaled out 2 of my cars and crashing countless cars of his own, finally getting a degree at 28 and getting married, he is not working in his field of study and lives in the apt. above my garage
The second one goes thru americore program, gets a teaching degree, gets married and now has our first grandson, owns their home and just bought their first new car, is a total joy to be around
Third one went to Naval Academy and is making a life near Baltimore soon to be married, bummer about not being close to us but it is what it is
So, to conclude my thoughts, your son is smarter than you think, its his life, let him live it the way he thinks fit and marvel at your offspring, you done good, dad.