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Golf is a game that is influenced by the mind. Once we con no longer win, if we can make it a personal game, it works better. Can I make one good shot ? Can I play one good hole ? Can I enjoy this game, knowing that I am not going to win ?
Ultimately, can I find my equilibrium, and get my core emotions back to a place where I am again in focus ? If God has anything to do with this conversation, the question would be, am I willing to give it up to God, and humbly admit that I am not always going to be at my best, but that this doesn't really reflect who I am. Having satisfaction around one's ability is one thing, but getting one's total sense of self worth out of one's performance is not healthy.
You felt so bad for your son that you couldn't smile and say, ''It's only a game, try to enjoy the day.'' ? How about, ''Win or lose, I am proud of the man you are becoming.'' ?
Mentally falling apart is often the cause of poor performance, and not the symptom. God gave your son some tremendous gifts and abilities. But ultimately your son has to swing the club with focus and a clear mind. Perhaps God can then help, given an uninterrupted and open channel through which He might flow.
The body can learn the skill, and the mind can direct. Can the ego get out of the way, and let it happen ?
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