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Originally Posted by tweezers74
This thread makes me sad. Even though my ex and I are divorced, we both work hard to provide for our boys financially and for their well-being. Although I have never received a penny in child support, we split expenses for the children right down the middle. 50/50. And I think it's fair. I don't understand these women who have children, split with the father, complain about the POS and then keep the chain tight by relying on him for money. Honestly? I wanted the least amount of dependence on my ex. If he pulled something (alcoholic at the time), I could keep the boys without any worry financially. I think sometimes women can be even bigger POS sometimes by not recognizing that they can rid themselves of their exes and their POS behavior if they came up with a plan to not be dependent on them. I don't understand that.
On the flip side, it also saddens me that there are men like this fella.  Good for you for saying something. I have found out a lot of POS people are that way because people sometimes are scared to say something to them. So they think the whole time their behavior is OK. If they hear the opposite all the time, they have choice but to stop and think about it for a second. Doesn't mean the will change but they can't say they didn't know they were doing wrong thing. Kudos. |
I wish my ex-wife was like you...
I pay A LOT in child support each month AND we split all of the kids' expenses (sports, activities, doc visits, etc) 50/50. And they're on my insurance. AND she still asks me for extra money every couple months. Now, I have no problem paying child support of almost any amount if the money's going to the kids. What bothers me is that she doesn't work; my "child support" is what pays all her bills.
My opinion is that the court system needs to be reworked. I think child support should go into an account specifically set up for the kid(s), and money can only be pulled from it to pay for things that are directly for them. I'd even be OK with a certain percentage of the funds being used for her house payment, utilities, etc. because those are things that benefit the kids, obviously. But making her car payment, her clothes shopping, credit card bills, all that BS...that was no longer my responsibility once I divorced her. My responsibility is solely the kids, now and my money should go to THEM, not her.
Rant over...sorry.