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Originally Posted by gacook
I wish my ex-wife was like you...
I pay A LOT in child support each month AND we split all of the kids' expenses (sports, activities, doc visits, etc) 50/50. And they're on my insurance. AND she still asks me for extra money every couple months. Now, I have no problem paying child support of almost any amount if the money's going to the kids. What bothers me is that she doesn't work; my "child support" is what pays all her bills.
My opinion is that the court system needs to be reworked. I think child support should go into an account specifically set up for the kid(s), and money can only be pulled from it to pay for things that are directly for them. I'd even be OK with a certain percentage of the funds being used for her house payment, utilities, etc. because those are things that benefit the kids, obviously. But making her car payment, her clothes shopping, credit card bills, all that BS...that was no longer my responsibility once I divorced her. My responsibility is solely the kids, now and my money should go to THEM, not her.
Rant over...sorry.
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I agree. The only case where I would say otherwise is if the woman didn't have the skill set or education to get a well paying job, or at least a job to pay her existing bills. I have seen some friends put their education to the way side while they supported their men through college only to pigeonhole themselves into "no way out" or be the slave to alimony if divorced. I say teach the woman how to "fish so she she can eat forever". Agree to pay half of trade school, whatever so the chain can be cut. That's how I see it.
And mind you, don't think all women think its awesome when she takes her ex "to the cleaners". I have a friend who doesn't work, all the children are in school and she refuses to go back to work using her degree because her ex husband makes good money and he left her for the younger woman he cheated with. To each their own but if it was me, I wouldn't let that man know that I even remotely "needed" him. I would become the better, stronger woman and find me a better man or heck, be a strong, happy single woman. Sometimes just being plain happy is the greatest revenge.
