[MotoSook]

Agree with Paul and "wd." Get it all out there and have a plan.



Sounds good, but it will probably fail...the plan. Sorry, but the family factor that should ensure the plan's success is already missing. But it's still worth trying.


And the arsehole in me says...go dump grandma on the lawyer SIL with POA.


I know from where I speak. I am the only son, and probably the most successful of my siblings (6 sisters). I've taken on the care of my parents who are in good health now. I know the day will come when I will have to deal with failing health. It will not be easy, and I will not be able to count on my sisters for financial support.

Right now, my parents are living in my guesthouse, and I pay all the bills including catastrophic insurance for my mom (step-mom) who isn't at Medicare age yet. Having them live with us will be easier to care for them, but I fear there will come a day when I need to provide at home nursing care. My folks have no savings nor pension (dad has a very very small one), so they pretty much live on Social Security now. When the bills get too much for me, I will hit up my sisters. I already know the sad stories I will get most of the time, and it willl likely lead to me banning them from my property. Call me heartless, but I don't have the patience to deal with such things.


I wish you luck with your MIL. I hinted at this before in prior threads, but this type of elderly care is ignored by our goverment. I don't ask for much from Uncle Sam, but I do wish they would start considering legislation and relief for folks in our position. We care for our elderly parents like any of our other dependents, yet we are penalized for it without any consideration for the expense and effort when it comes to taxes.