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Of course, we want our parents to be around instead of a nursing home, but there comes a time when it's better for THEM as well as you. A good nursing home has the experience and is set up for special cases like Alzheimer's and Dementia. They have staff who monitor them all the time, and keep them out of trouble.
Imagine having to supervise every single thing that goes on in the house- childproofing things, locking the doors at night so they don't wander out in the street, or let the pets loose.
Even grocery shopping is a PITA, don't even think about vacations. A fading patient is a tough commitment, that's the ugly reality of it. Would your MIL want to be a burden on you?
My Mom is a retired RN, and threw the towel in on my dad after 2.5 years, she knew it was over, and my Dad wouldn't want to be anyone's PITA, he'd be OK with it.
rjp
PS the nursing home is what you make of it- I visit several times weekly, because it's just has to happen.
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