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Tweezers, glad you chimed in. We did push to spit the POA and the health POA, with us taking the health POA. It makes sense for my wife to have the health POA as she will be dealing with the decisions making.
MOM is on Alz. meds, Arracept (sp) and we don't expect a great deal of improvement but maybe a slowing as you had mentioned.

You are so correct when you say it would be less scary for MOM to be at our house as opposed to a facility. We feel the same at it has been tangibly demonstrated by MOMs words and actions. (MOM= my other mother)

I don't count much on physical help from the other siblings. MOM has been with us for three weeks and one daughter has visited her for about 4 hours. So if you want to be a checkbook caregiver then pull out your checkbook.

Thanks all for helping put some outside perspective.