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Cairns, I know what you are saying and am not afraid to face the day when MOM will have to be in a home. Its not that time now. She still has some tread on the tires and to send her to a home would be a death sentence.
Having her with us has been beneficial in some ways as the wife and I are drawn closer by our need to be a team. My 9 y/o, who has been an only child is learning some life lessons about not being the center of the universe. She has responded pretty well. Each day has its challenges but not feeling it being a burden at this point.
With some outside assistance from the long term care insurance we can do this until we shouldn't do it.
I appreciate all the informative responses and we have implemented some of the info in this thread.
I just don't understand the siblings.