For the few if any folks that are curious how things turned out on this project:
I finally found an affordable (17 bucks) weatherproof automotive 10 second delay relay. I could find lots of expensive ones that were close to or more than $80.
Now while driving along the fan never comes on. If I use the brakes to slow down to change lanes the fan does not come on. Only after 10 seconds of braking when the compressor is running does the cooling fan run.
We did had have a nice hot 95 degree day the other day. I took the wife to dinner and the traffic was heavy. Lots of sitting at long lights. The AC was blowing cold and the engine temp even stayed lower that before.
Overall I am real happy with the results.
Thanks all that made suggestions and especially to Matt Davis.