Good thread Tilikum. And as mentioned above some guys don't have a backbone.
Could have been me with my first wife. After six years of marriage and fortunately no children I initiated the separation. Like daughter like mother's behavior. Before that time my mother in law showed my mother the fur coats that the boyfriend(s) bought her hidden in the back of the closet so my father in law could not see.
I would have been like my fil if I had stayed in that marriage. You gotta grow a backbone in this life to have self esteem. And if you provide the "run forest run" advice they won't listen to you anyway. But there is no harm in trying.
Guy