[JavaBrewer]

My Dad recently turned 81 and he is rapidly losing his awareness and self sufficiency. He has lived with type 2 diabetes for over 15 years and now dementia is making serious in roads. My Mom who is 79 had some real health issues years ago that I thought she would not survive. Now she has rebounded and is doing her best with my Dad. They still live in their old home in Santa Barbara but IMO they need additional help. I am an only child and live ~ 4 hours away. I have setup a PT elderly in-home care service which they initially thought would be great but have since refused.

It is very hard to manage this from a distance. My parents are very stubborn and proud people. They are/were a great inspiration to me and to see them go down this road is very hard.

Thanks everyone for posting here. In some way your posts give me strength to face this situation knowing it is not unique.