[Noah930]

(For me) it depends. But I also think it depends on a person's innate personality.

When I was a kid I played tennis, and I still remember the time my coach made a comment about being a good loser. Later, in college, I played a team sport. The stakes were different. While it's one thing to remain gracious and sporting, I realized that we had gotten to a point where there are no such things as "good losers." You were either a bad loser, or just a loser altogether. This had nothing to do with sportsmanship. But if you lost, it SHOULD burn. It should have gnawed at you and pissed you off. And that was OK. I certainly didn't want any teammates who didn't feel the same way.

But that was just one endeavor for me. I would think that different failures in life would garner different responses, depending on their relative importance. Then again, there are those who seem super-competitive and can't stand the thought of losing at anything, no matter how apparently inconsequential.