Thank you for all the input. After thinking about it over night I've decided not to delay paying her and to bring in an IT guy to see what can be done about the emails. The job she moved on to is a huge step back - retail sales in a different industry, so I'm not worried about competition. As I think I posted before, her situation is exactly like that of a previous employee, right down to this.
They are both big girls - 300-400 pounds - really hard working and effective employees, but no love life. They both got men and they let their professional lives go. The first one took a retail job and married a really good looking guy whose OCD is so bad he can hardly function. (I had him do some work for me and his behavior was unbelievable). It lasted a year. This one is marrying a guy who looks like - well, if Tyrion on Game of Thrones was a couple of inches taller and a good bit rounder they could be brothers. The thought of that little guy crawling on top of this huge woman is both hilarious and disturbing. Oh well, they have their lives.
