[Dantilla]

It's not just the numbers.....

I do some volunteer construction work for a local non-profit, and one of the continuous issues is determining which people are going to actually be helped, long-term, if we agree to do work for them.
The big question: "If we do this, how will it affect their life a year, two years, five years from now?"

-Those who will be helped the most tend to be those that do not want to ask for help.
-There are others whos lifestyle is to go from non-profit to non-profit organization looking for handouts.

I would apply the same litmus test to family. I would want to help. Not become an enabler.