[Porsche-O-Phile]

Single again after 15+ years if marriage. At first I pined for the security and normalcy I'd come to know. Now I realize I'd never go back. My S.O. wants me back in a big way (which I'm fine with) but I'd never be married again. Committed relationship? In love? Sure. Married? No effing way. There's no upside to it. Way too much liability. Think potential loss of income, property, freedom, happiness and the ability to ever retire if you get bit with an onerous alimony payment which I was able to avoid, but it scared the hell out of me realizing that at any time, anyone can - for any reason (or no reason) utterly destroy you and stick you in that situation even though you may have done absolutely nothing wrong. I'd never, ever advise marriage to anyone. No upside, lots of potential downside.

One doesn't need a label and he potential losses to have a happy and fulfilling relationship. It just doesn't matter anymore. I just thank god every day that I didn't get in a situation that cost me as much as it well could have and we were both reasonably amicable. Way too many horror stories out there and remember - men ALWAYS lose, it's just a question of how much.