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its so frustrating. his life is focused around his phone and the computer. (games).
if he gets in trouble, usually for not doing chores, i take his electronics away. when i do, he just goes to bed. this is from a kid that if i let him he will stay up all night on his phone or computer. usually playing a game with one of his friends over the net. this just drives me NUTS.
he does not understand that we are not punishing him when we try to restrict phone usage but then its hard to control it. if he is not playing a game on his computer then he is playing a game on his phone.
some ideas i am thinking of:
3 nights a week he can hibernate to the "cave" and play games. the other 2 he has to be out with us. one night on the weekend he can hibernate.
(this is already a rule) no computers or games when it is light outside.
2hrs of reading a book gets you 2hrs of game time
this is one i am going to start- no phone or computer until the chores are done.

he is not a gangly, goofy nerdy kid. i think he could, or could have, done well in sports but he just has not had the drive or interest. now at his age i think it might be bad for him to try to compete with other kids.
he started to try out for basket ball lsat year. after the first day he was "hurt" and ready to quit. i gave him a pep talk about my days racing bicycles and how hard things were. he went back to tryouts that day but then got sick and did not go back again.

we have got to get him interested in something else. how can we reduce the electronic time without making come across as punishment?