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Originally Posted by john70t
I would expand...but it would continue into national media manipulation and the source of constant social discontent.
Then this thread would go into PARF.
Women today are being trained to no longer feel content with a regular, decent, stable guy in uniform.
Some 'ordinary joe'.
It is the unfortunate result of today's social conditioning.
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.... at the risk of PARFing the thread i will weigh in here, because i think we actually agree on some level.
the problem is expectations. i'd describe myself as a feminist, and the girls i date as feminists. but if there is one serious fault to modern feminism, it is that it has taught women that they can do everything. and i don't mean to say that they cannot, just that life is a series of choices and priorities. opportunity cost applies regardless of gender. an example:
i run across women quite often who are great looking, strong career, athletic, smart, driven, they have hobbies, they travel, etc, and all of those things i find really attractive, and i'd love to date. but many times, they are so busy doing those things, that they no longer have time, or rather, they no longer prioritize the time, to build a relationship with a man. they are looking for a guy who will fit nicely in that 20 minutes between getting home from work, and heading out for yoga. they think that can happen, that is what they are looking for. they think men can do that, and even we can't. its not a gender issue, its simply a time prioritization issue. they think they can have a deep meaningful relationship, and a sweet job, and go out with friends or do yoga every night, and travel on the weekends, and in those small cracks in the schedule, this relationship is supposed to happen. and it simply can't. its not a gender issue, its just simply time. there are only so many hours in the day, and if you want to have a boyfriend, time must be spent on that.
i've run across at least a dozen of these in the last 3 years, even dated one for a while. its sad because, i think these are the most attractive women out there, but they have been lied to, and they lie to themselves.
i also think online dating attracts women that are like this, because you log on in that 15 minutes between work and yoga, and message the guys back, and then do it again the next day .... there is very little time commitment to "met people"
sad. i feel bad for them. but, what can you do? move on to someone who gets it. i hope this is just a mid-20s problem, but i suspect it will only get worse.