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Truffles?
Other than that it reads like probably 90% of the other profiles.
Online dating is a game - the rules are different than for analog dating, though at some point they have to merge.
I met my wife a number of years ago on match.com, and had dated online for a year or two before that. Took me awhile to understand the dynamic and how to make it work. I evolved a few rules to make the game less annoying.
1. don't wink, poke, or otherwise do some half-assed communication. If you want to meet them, then write them directly.
2. DO NOT engage in a prolonged email/chat conversation. You need to meet in person by the 2nd or 3rd message. Trust me on this. Very easy to fall into a "digital relationship" and that likely won't end well.
3. When you meet, have an out. Make it low risk - coffee or tea at a neutral location and beforehand indicate that you have to be somewhere else afterwards. If you really hit it off you can extend it, but controlling expectations is key.
As for the profile, take a look at other *male* profiles and see what other guys are saying. Interesting to gauge the competition.
Don't BS. If you really do love sunsets, then you can say that but everyone says they love dog, sunsets, walks on the beach, etc. You have to differentiate yourself. That said, I never waited for women to contact me as most won't. Online dating is a game, and if you're serious, it also is a job. Spend the time searching for someone who is interesting and write them. And expect not to get a reply. I think I averaged about a 10% "hit" rate. A significant percentage of the women online are not interested in a relationship. They want attention. Some other percentage wants a free meal - and some attention. A small number actually are looking for a serious relationship. And that's ok. If you're looking for something casual, then be upfront about that. There are women there who want that. If you want serious, be up front about that. But expect a lot of rejection and a spectrum of people that you actually meet. Just don't expect that everyone is there for the same reason as you.
I met a few whackos, but mostly they were sane, fun, and interesting. Just a question of the deeper fit. And I ended up with a few longish-term relationships, and finally found "the one" so it can work. But you have to respect and understand the process.
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