[fintstone]

I suggest you both come off a bit effeminate in your writing/profile.

Most that do not come off a pervert do. Don't provide so much info. Be a little mysterious. Women are initially attracted to the strong silent type (and if over about 25...successful...looking at least)...then (later) they are hooked when you can be a bit more refined (be a little bit sensitive, recite poetry, remember her name or birthday, like babies or puppies, etc.). They already have girlfriends, they want a man.

If you want to do well as a single today (have high standards and want to meet beautiful, interesting women), you need to be in shape. If you are single, what else do you have to do in your free time but work out? Where do you eat, at a donut shop? They can get plenty of chubby, middle-aged men.

That said, as Seahawk suggested earlier...eventually, if you are reasonably healthy, wealthy and wise...they will line up to meet you when you get older (good hair and teeth are a bonus). Just be patient.