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Originally Posted by Rikao4
your lady is po and boiling..
probably be blowing steam once you all make it to the event...
and if not resolved one way or the other...
your gonna hear about it for another 30 years..
as it's her violin that she meant to give her daughter...
this is very important and personal for her...
so you really have no choice..
Rika
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^^This^^
Whether or not this is the best time to settle the issue is arguable, but it is important to establish ownership of the violin at some time, and probably soon as some of the principles (MIL) may not be around.
It belongs to your wife.
Her mother lent it without her knowledge.
Misunderstanding by the SIL as to it being a loan or gift is irrelevant as it was not the MIL's to lend/give.
This point needs to be established while the MIL is still alive and, ideally, by the MIL herself.
If your wife has been PO'd for thirty years, she/you need to act--it will only get worse.
Again, this may not be the time or occasion to act (risk ruining daughters performance?), but the issue needs resolution.