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Originally Posted by msk1986911
The gifts were a set f Bose headphones for each kid (6 in total when you add our sister's 4 to the mix). I am over this but, $900 for Christmas seems like a lot when you don't have much.
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Cash said it best above.
One idea would be for the family kids to return the headphones without him knowing. Then use the money on a vacation with the brother, or help those helping him if his new homestead is already up to date.
Your brother sounds like a selfless giver. He helped those around him, believing that his own personal security will in turn be guarenteed in the future. But he invested in the wrong crowd. They made decisions for him, he fell back into a submissive role, and now he's stuck in that routine. This needs to change.
Now he's older, alone, and has less options. Time for a new life. Start over.
He's giving money to you so you can take over their role in making his decisions. A helping hand up is what he needs now in terms of his mentality. A goal and a sense of purpose. Things he can start doing himself, which makes him feel good and stay busy. Hobby, church, pet, card group, whatever. Even blind people can sculpt and often can do it better.
Spending some time together in a task or travel will let him know you won't be there 100% for him, but at least a solid 5% and that he is loved.
Sometimes that's all it takes.