I guess I have it pretty easy working in the movie biz, there's always a few odds and ends left over after production that someone can always use. I've always enjoyed everything I've gotten in the exchange and it's actually one of THE presents I look forward to every year.
But things can get hectic around the holidays (I know they did for me this year) and I scrambled towards the end to get my package out on time. I don't think any real good can come from a "public shaming" of the multiple offending Pelican, just a PM that his or her name will be deleted from the list if him/her even THINKS about participating next year.
As far as gifts that are above and beyond the rules, I think there is a lot of leeway there. This forum is a community of diverse individuals who work in all trades and professions. I think everyone would agree, it is one of the best sources of diverse information (I still get funny looks when I tell people "Oh, I learned it on a Porsche forum") for subjects outside of auto repair. If I got a fellow Pelican who may have answered a legal/medical question pro bono, or helped me with a difficult home repair I might want to toss in a bottle of nice scotch or a gift card to a restaurant/coffe joint. Heck, I'd probably spend more on a fellow Pelican than I would for some members of my family
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As far as inappropriate gifts, I always figure my recipient will be opening it in front of family. If someone was offended by a stuffed squirrel or mildly risque item, let's just say they need to lighten up a bit. But if the gift was intentionally offensive, say from one PARFer to another that are constantly at odds, that crosses the line. I'd really like to know what the gift(s) were so we can draw our own conclusions.
Sorry to be so long winded, just wanted to state my opinion and Thanks again Guy for stepping up this year!