[ckelly78z]

I have been married for 26 years and fully expect another 26 years, but I have to work at it, and not just take it for granted. I can't imagine staying in a loveless, bad marriage for the kids, how is that any example to set for them. I believe the kids will understand at some point, but possibly not right away why Mom and Dad aren't staying together. I fully agree with Porsche-o-phile that if you want to start working on the life that you want, you shouldn't wait till you are 50 years old, because everything is more difficult at that point whether it be dating, retirement planning, or completely starting over with a new wife.

As far as giving advice, I think I would hold my tongue until asked for your opinion. You need to tell him that you are there if he needs to talk or vent, or just hang out and have a beer. Just being there for him is far better than overstepping boundaries.