[Oh Haha]

My first wife and I divorced after only 2.5 years. We did not have kids together(she had a daughter from a previous relationship). Different scenario from the poster's situation I know. After a long time of trying and getting nowhere, neither of us were happy. We finally decided to call it quits. Clean break as we had no financial business or children. She kept the house and I moved on to a better life.

Now, with a clear head I can say that we BOTH did things wrong that caused the marriage to fail. No, I didn't stay out all night and was found in a compromising situation but the way it was dealt with was not healthy. It was a horrible time in everyone's life. At the time, I had friends and family that were supportive but I couldn't see the obvious due to a determination to make it work. I didn't want to be divorced and tried everything I could to "hope and wish" it to be better. You cannot change someone that doesn't want the same thing as you.

Me maturing and not dealing with problems in a childish manner probably would have helped.....

I don't know your friend but there usually is 2 sides of a story.

That being said, I think the experience of being in a bad marriage helps me realize what I have with my wife now. We aren't perfect but even at the worst of times I can say honestly that it has never felt like the old way.


There IS hope even after a divorce to find happiness.