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Originally Posted by reachme
In the end HE must want to change
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And there is the one thing you must understand.
I am not going into it but I can tell you from his point of view, I was there and by all accounts I have no reason to be alive. I lost everything from drinking, I found rock bottom, and I know where your friend is and trust me he has not hit the bottom yet or he would never go back to the bottle.
AA might be the answer but it wasn't for me, so I can't say it would be a good thing, but I can't say it would hurt either. We each find the support we need in our own time and that works for us, if we want to find it, your friend has to find what he needs. If he was sober while you were there, and went back to the bottle when you were gone then your friend simply needs to be accountable for his actions every single second of the day, he can not be left alone. If you decide to let your friend stay make it perfectly clear, one drink and he is gone, and be prepared to follow through with it, get it in writing, if you simply hold his hand you are enabling his actions, you do not need to be behind him, not in front of him, you need to be next to him, if you want to help. I can't say that hitting the bottle is normal, or if he will do it again but if he drank that much I would expect he will do it again.
Tough call, my opinion, the dog goes, he gets one more chance with stipulations, and that is all, make sure he knows you will not tolerate him being there drinking. You may lose a friend over this but if that is the case it will just be one more step closer to rock bottom for him and like I said I don't think he has found it yet, but he is going to need to.
PM me if you want, this is a very broad subject and there is no easy one size fits all answer.
Your a good man to even care at all. Your friend is lucky but he may not realize it