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Originally Posted by billybek
1. How did or how do you arrange for inhome care for your parents with out insulting them?
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If they are mentally capable you tell them straight out. No lies.
"I am unable to give you all the help you need at this point by myself."
"This person is here to help you and me while I'm busy. I want you to listen to them".
They will be uncomfortable adjusting to a stranger assisting with mssy bathroom cleanup. (but how would you feel with some stranger wiping your ash?)
ABOVE ALL: Be very involved, but let the professional do his/her job first. Connect and bond.
If it does not feel like things are working out with that care person, consider changes.
Stay flexible and learn what works.
It not an easy thing to go through. You have to remember to heal yourself.
Take a breather and be sure to laugh once in a while.
Having things prepared before is huge: A easy changing chair, a stack of depends, shower grab bars, spraybottle and toweletts for cleanup, sweatpants and cloths all neat in a row and ready to go.
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Originally Posted by billybek
2. How did you or how do you bring up the topic with your siblings to pay for inhome care?
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Sit down and talk finances frankly and realistically.
$93,000/yr. is the average nursing home price in Michigan.
My uncle rented a room to a nursing student in exchange for part time care.
That was a smart choice.