[Oh Haha]

I dated my first wife for about 8 years before we decided to get married. I was 27 and she was 30. You know how they say everything changes when you sign the license?...

Well, it sure as fark DID in my case!!!!!

One night she went out with friends and at 5am wasn't home yet. I drove around looking for her and finally spotted her car at a house. I went to the front door and saw her sitting next to a guy in his underpants. Nothing was going on but you can only imagine what I was thinking.

This was about 6 months after we were married. To say I was devastated would be an understatement. She claimed that nothing happened but to me it didn't matter WHAT she said. To put herself in a compromising position was bad enough.

We separated shortly after as it was clear forgiveness wasn't happening from me.

I found out during our separation that she had been talking to the dude several times a day. This was before cell phones but I had an inside person at the phone company. shhhh

We got back together as I wasn't willing to get divorced after only 1 year. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but we had no kids together.

The infidelity, real or not, was just too much for me to accept. We were together for about another 8 months but it totally sucked. I just couldn't trust her and I went into complete jacka$$ mode. I had no control of my emotions and made our life horrible because of it. I regret the way I treated her(no physical abuse but words can bruise a person,too).

I was determined to make it work but every day was just emptiness. No love, caring, or anything else.

One Sunday I looked at her and said "I can't live this way". Her reply was "me either".

Seriously, at that moment I could feel this heavy weight being lifted from me.

Our divorce was amicable and I gave her the house which she put in her name. No kids so that wasn't an issue. I didn't have a close relationship with her daughter.

I paid about $3000 in the end but it was well spent.

While single I took a promotion at work and moved 75 miles from my hometown. I didn't date anyone until I met my current(and last)wife.

Even after all of the pain I suffered it was still the best life decision I could have made.

On another note, my best friend and his wife recently divorced. I don't know the details but their relationship was one that I envied. I spent a lot of time with them when going though my divorce.

Sorry that was so long. It's still hard to believe it's been 17 years.