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Originally Posted by billybek
I have a question for the brain trust.
1. How did or how do you arrange for inhome care for your parents with out insulting them?
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Of course every person, every family is different, such as my wife's parents got into a retirement home in their 70's while they were both still healthy and later moved to assisted living where they spent the rest of their days, very little problem to their children.
My parents on the other hand fought us tooth and nail every inch of the way, when my dad entered his 80's he started falling down a lot... we were seeing a lot of dings and scrapes on his car but he would nor give up the car key no matter how much we demanded and argued with him... we also argued with him about using ladders and doing chores around the house but he would not be detoured.
Back to the question at hand... we worked the caregivers in gradually... a couple hours a day a couple days a week... it took over a year to get someone in there seven days a week for half a day... even at that mom sometime will send the caregiver home early.
I know this sounds terrible and deceptive but to get caregivers in the house we took dad aside and said "dad, mom needs help, can we bring in a caregiver?" and pulled mom aside and said "mom, dad needs help can we bring in a caregiver."
I know a lot of you are "just talk to them logically" but not all families operate on logic... especially when the parents are advanced in years and may have started to deteriorate mentally.