[911SauCy]

Let’s begin with a description of the "maniacal mother":
She is the most manipulative person I've ever dealt with and as I have had time away to grow I see that she is not just manipulative but downright toxic. In the last couple years I figured out why my father’s family never really had a relationship with us, I was always assured that they were the problem, along with myriad of negative descriptors. Turns out this was never the case and now that I’m my own person, they had many unanswered questions to ask me, and I now have great unstrained connections with all of them. Another example was when we decided family counseling was what we needed, about 10 years back, and the psychologist (who was very thorough and matter of fact) narrowed the stem of almost all issues to my mother. Well, that woman was now every bad name under the sun a woman would use to insult another woman…as that smoke cleared she tried to blame all of her issues on my father(the guy is a saint)…who she then accused of being sexually attracted to the shrink. She now sees some clown who steals her $ and prescribes her 200mg of Zoloft…knowing darn well she drinks a bottle of wine/night…….

I could crash the PPOT server with instances of the like, but in the spirit of retaining interest and length, lets fast forward to this past weekend.
She tells me the only time she can see my little man is Friday afternoon and she misses him so much she needs to see him. (This is coming from someone who works part-time) Funny thing is that’s the one scheduled time each week his other grandma watches him, my mother was denied. So I agree to have her visit Saturday morning, she arrives solo…where’s Grandpa? She immediately starts in with lines about him not being motivated, he doesn’t care, and really she needed her time. (I find out later she lied to him about her destination so he wouldn’t come.) Shortly after she pulls out a book about God (every page has underlines and highlights) insisting I read it, this lunatic then begins to tell me and my wife that she and my dad are getting a divorce. After 34 years, she’s tired of being drained and she needs a happier life. So all of this nonsense talk continues and I couldn’t be happier as they’ve both been miserable for the last 3 years… Aside from the fact that I think its plain wrong that my dad, never mind my brother, wasn’t also there to have this discussion…truth began to emerge as the conversation carried on.

Psychopath mom hadn’t even told dad that she wanted a divorce, the poor guy was home having his coffee while she was trying to get me to take her “side” and “needed to rely on me for emotional support”. This C U Next Tuesday then starts in with defaming language about my dad, his character, and why he has pushed her to do this. My wife and I were in utter disbelief, I didn’t know how or what to say other than keep my mouth shut as I knew anything I said, she would probably use against me. That’s if she doesn’t decide to just fabricate lies, which is a regular occurrence as well.

After she left and the day carried I grew incredibly enraged for countless reasons and I decided to call her and demand she tell my dad immediately. She then informed me that “she had no control, and God told her what to say at my house”. When she went home she pulled my 19 year old brother aside and told him as well, but also told him to keep his mouth shut. I continually insisted she tell my dad or I was making a visit… She supposedly told him yesterday but there’s no actual officiating factor, paperwork, lawyers, etc… I’m pretty sure this is her biggest stunt for attention to date and I don’t need it in my life.
I want her out of my life completely. Suggestions otherwise? How to deal with her? Other life experience that might be admirable I can look to for help?