[DanielDudley]

I am the coffee maker and greeter for a church meeting group.

It is a legitimate obligation.

They didn't say no to personally insult you. It seems as if you are taking it that way. For some people, their faith is a good part of what makes them the kind of people you would get along with. If you can't honor their faith or their religion, consider that this at least is worthy of respect.

How would you feel if they were on a forum complaining that you could not meet them, because you ''had'' to spend time with your children. Couldn't you skip that ? I sense a double standard here.