[911SauCy]

Update:

I've made a number of difficult decisions regarding how often, when and how my family will interact with my mother. Did this through the help of a number of sources, but gathered the strength in speaking to numerous family members all wondering/sensing the same thing about her.

I had a long and private discussion with my father, introduced him to the idea of NPD and simply asked that he educate himself on it. (I don't want to label my mother but if the shoe fits, and it does) We had a great talk which a few days later I realized was for nothing. He's so used to being my mother's puppet, he apparently went home and spilled his guts of everything I told him in confidence. I won't be making that mistake again, mistake being to trust him at his word... sad.

Turns out dad had no idea mom was "divorcing him" and they aren't going to get divorced. Instead she used this game piece to push him to the unemployment office...because she thinks he needs a new career. (He's been building homes and doing interior finish work for 32years and make great $) At 60, she thinks he needs to get a new job. Why, because she's unemployed.unemployable and was the health insurance provider... Now it's on dad and mom blames him.

I say mom is unemployable because she can't even hold a minimum wage teacher's aide job. Since the original post she's been put on paid administrative leave through the school system because she stopped a 16 year old girl in the hallway, hugged and kissed her. She told me the girl is a b**** for saying anything and because it doesn't state it in her job description, she didn't know that was bad. Plus, kids nowadays aren't love enough. (You can't make this stuff up) Passing blame...AGAIN.

Better yet, she has my dad so warped, that he is telling people the same story and victimizing my mother in doing so...guy doesn't know his arse from his elbow.