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I can empathize, except in my situation I had a bipolar/violent/con-man of a father and an enabling/selfish/emotionally abusive mother. It really was the match made in hell. When my mother cheated on my father and a divorce was imminent, they both tried to recruit me to their side and both asked me to hide money from the other. I took a step back from both of them for several years and only engaged them on my terms. When they tried to get manipulative with me, I simply physically left or hung up the phone. It didn't make them better people, but it did condition them not to behave so badly around me.