[fastfredracing]

My boy is on the scale for autisim. He does pretty good for the most part, but after this last year, and all our family has been through , he has been having some problems at school.
We gave it one last chance, but after a few more issues at school, the suggestion of the school counselor, and our own observations, we decided to send him to a special school that is supposed to deal with kids like him better. We are hoping to get him on the right track , and back into public school for next year. So far,so good.
He gets extra special care there, and seems to be doing well, but.... There are kids there that are far worse than he is.
It seems as if one of the kids in his classroom, goes def con 5 several times a day, and part of his routine when he looses it , is to verbally, and physically assault my son. The teachers break it up quick, but still, he has been hit in the face, punched in the gut, and cornered and knocked down. It is weird, they are friends, but when the little guy comes undone, he comes after my son. Probably the new kid thing . Although my kid is a little clumsy, he is pretty strong, and a lot bigger than the other kid. I think he could make short work of him, if he wanted to
I keep telling him to just ignore it , protect your face, and try to move away from little george when he spaz's out, but I am wondering if I am really teaching him the right thing.
I want to raise a son, that is compassionate, and kind, and not a bully but do not want to make a little sissy who cowers at the first signs of aggression, and is afraid to stick up for himself.
I know what my dad would have told me to do.
All , in all , I think this has been a real good lesson for little Freddy, as he would sometimes be the aggressor when he would have issues in the past. I really believe that being on the other side is showing him how wrong that behavior is. But, still, part of being a man, is learning how to stand up for yourself when the time comes.
Part of me wants to tell him to put a beat down on the little guy. I'd be willing to bet that he'll think twice before he comes at my son again. I know this is not the right answer.
What do,or did you teach your sons in this situation My boy is 9. I think everyone of us has gone through this at some point in our lives.