[RKDinOKC]

Never grounded my nephew. Instead I explained to him how being under Authority works. Mainly how if you do what authority asks, when they ask, and follow the rules you earn trust. If you break the rules and don't do the things asked when asked you lose trust. And the most important part, the benefits of having trust, like permission to do things and getting things you want. It's not about taking current freedoms and things away as much as being able to get future freedoms and things. When he ask to do things or to get things the decision of whether he could or not was based on his past performance.

When I got a car, my Dad told me I could stay out as late as I wanted as long as I got up and did what I was supposed to do the next day. If I didn't, he would take my keys. I had earned that trust because I always did what I was told to do when I was told to do it. I might have complained, but it was while I was doing it, not instead of.