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Originally Posted by Porsche-O-Phile
So am I resentful? I hope not. I was kinda' done with CA at that point anyway (I'd put up with too much BS and I'd had enough) - the position gave me an "out", it saved my bacon at the time and I'm grateful for that but now I'm getting to the point where I've actually got choices again and I may well want to take advantage of them.
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I think my main point it that CA is no unique in having BS. *Every place* has BS - just different flavors. So you may have gotten fed up with the particular type of BS in CA, but with that BS comes positives so everything is a cost/benefit analysis.
My point about "choice" is that your language was such that you didn't have a choice. But you did, and your follow-up expanded on them and why you made the decision that you did. But you did make a choice to stick it out in your field instead of changing fields or considering other options (including the box under the 405). We don't always have a lot of good options, but it is rare that there is only one way to go.
Also, your time spent pursuing flying was a choice that you made, and any choice has repercussions. In retrospect one could say that the time spent there hindered your other career choices. But sounds like you loved flying, so you're back to the cost/benefit. For example right now if I hadn't raced my 911 for five years I would have a much bigger chunk of money to put towards a down payment on a house. I would have more options wrt our living situation. But instead I burned through probably $75K driving around in circles. I paid a price for that, but in retrospect, it was money well spent as I enjoyed the hell out of it, learned a lot about myself, and have been able to use that self-knowledge and experience in other parts of my life.
And that's the other aspect. We can look at our experiences and see how they helped us later, or we can beat ourselves up and said, "woulda/shoulda." I still struggle with the latter, but that again, is another choice we have.