[john70t]

So there needs to be two things: an incentive for the female to have the male around (or punishment) and an incentive for the male to stay around (or punishment).

Compared to the 50's when the male worked and the female raised children and they were both stigmatized if not married and responsible, today the government takes over the main role as the primary breadwinner. The male is displaced and considered disposable while the female is surrounded by a network, culture, and legacy of single-parent females. Vive la liberation femme. Girls gone wild. Whoo Hoo. Power!

Both these cycles have to be broken.
I believe some of the M->F violence which tears apart young families stems from the unrealistic economic expectations of culture(i.e. cable before baby food), frustration of males who have lost empowerment, employment, and dignity, and a more assertive and/or aggressive female who claims dominance in all roles. Young people are not planning ahead for the future and sticking to their roles, because there aren't any roles.