[Porsche-O-Phile]

So sorry to hear. If there's an upside it's that dementia patients eventually get what my friend (who is a hospice nurse and sees this a lot) calls "silly happy". The dementia patients get kind of like babies who are giggly and fascinated with grass, shadows, their toes, whatever. It's kind of fun to watch sometimes I guess as weird as that sounds. Obviously different people ultimately get affected different ways but at least in that stage / state they're not unhappy, just blissfully ignorant of much else.

Still, it's very hard on the families especially knowing what usually comes later (inability to speak / walk / function followed by bed riddance and ultimately death).

I'm sorry for you but my point is that eventually your mom will find a "happy place" even if it means you've lost her. Dementia sucks. I can deal with something killing one's body but one's mind? One's memories and experiences and their entire life - everything important to them systematically snipped away? That's pretty crummy (from an outsider / family member perspective - not necessarily that of the person going through it).