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Originally Posted by slodave
Yes, it's true! Adopted at birth. I did a little search here and can't really find other threads about this, short of one from a parent adopting foster kids.
I've known about my adoption since I was little
....... I had known that I had a older brother via my parents. We communicated back and forth via FB messenger for a couple of years, before deciding it was time to take it to the next level...
Life is moving forward and there are a few reasons that I need to now connect with my birth family (not up for public discussion).
..... Emotionally, I seem to be handling things fine, though I was bombarded at Thanksgiving dinner with questions from every part of the field by my family and nearly broke down a couple of times.
Feel free to ask questions and I hope y'all follow along with my journey!  |
My wife was adopted & has been through the same journey that you are starting out on.
She had always known about it, and became more curious to find the truth out when our son was born. One reason was for his biological inheritance and also, I think, because his birth was a step towards our inevitable end - and you dont want to pass-on without solving (or at least attempting to uncover ) these family mysteries.
This has been done and wifey is happier now. She has met some good birth relatives & bad ones too. Thank god for the WWW, we would have given up if the Internet didnt exist!
Her birth mum had died before we found her, but she was able to exchange letters with her birth father before he died. She has new half brothers and lots of Aunts / Uncles plus a lot of weird stories to entertain guests at dinner parties!! Lots of things happened in those days that would never occur now.
My advice is to try and find out about your birth father (if you dont already know). Step carefully and start by asking men - as we found that women are guardians forever of other women's reputations. Be persistent, without confrontation, as most people will understand and be on your side.
Best of luck on your quest.