[jhynesrockmtn]

I went through this 25 years ago, happy to answer any questions you may have. Best short advice I have is go slow, don't build up expectations and don't push. There are still areas I won't go and I have a great relationship with my birth mom and the rest of that family. I've also met those living on my birth fathers side but he died when I was 8 months old. I had the benefit of a support group that included people from all sides of the triad (adoptee, adopter, birth family) when I was searching which took a year and a half. It was a different time when we were born, you don't know your origin story or why Bmom may have trepidation and you may never have all of the answers you seek. But the journey is worth it. There are ways to open sealed birth certificates which differ state to state. That may yield info on Bdad although many women didn't disclose them at the time. Best of luck!