NotaBRG, I believe it was one of your posts I dug up when searching for other posts about adoption.
I don't think adoption should be hidden from either side. I think there should also be more avenues to try and find each other these days. I understand the possible complications, believe me I do. I just think the days of keeping things so locked up is a thing of the past. But that is for another thread.
"My parents picked me! Yours have no choice." - That's a good one! Don't think I used that as a kid.