[RKDinOKC]

Is a person retarded if the is nothing wrong with them except they are just really stupid?

Have a cousin that is my age that is a mongoloid with downs syndrom. Mentally he's about 14 or 15. Lives in community with a bunch of others and works there where they package things and wrap them in plastic.

Ask because SIL has a son from another marriage that has nothing wrong with him except he is just stupid. He works as a cook and has an apartment but can't figure out how to drive a car so walks everywhere. Can't even ride a bike. Talking to him he just doesn't get anything. Asked and SIL says docs can't find anything wrong just a very low IQ. His Mom checks on him to make sure his is buying and fixing food and taking care of himself a few times a week.

He was living with his Mom and she was taking care of him when my Brother first started dating her. Think my brother got him into Job Corps and he did really well. They where teaching him to be a cook found he did really well with baking and sent him to San Francisco to train under some big name bakery chef. When finished there he was supposed to go spend a year in France with some big name pastry chef. He quit a couple of months before he was to go to France. Said he was just doing prep work. Job Corps people and us all told him all he had to do was work for these chefs to put on his resume and he would be set. He could work anywhere he wanted as a bakery chef and easily open his own place because banks would give him a loan because of it, that's that is how the chef thing works. He just didn't get it. What an opportunity.